“Well, technically you weren’t dumped since both of you never really been in a relationship”
That’s what a good friend of mine tell me when i told her that i was dumped. Well, logically she isn’t wrong. but really? Why it was not consider dump just because there is never been or never will be an existence of confession? After stumbled here and there, i’ve come with a conclusion that yo don’t need to be in relationship to get dumped.
And yes, if you ask me, I, like anybody else in this world, unfortunately have been dumped (Well, okay maybe not everyone..). Twice to be exact. One when i was in relationship, another one is not. The one that was in relationship, I wasn’t hurt at all, not even angry. I see this coming and it takes make like a few minutes to move on. While another one, the one that my friend said it was technically not being dumped, i was crying all night, took me a month go through denial phase, self blaming phase, wanting revenge and go back again like a random loop. It’s took me 3 month to move on, and go back in instant the moment i met him in person. A tiny kind gesture from him can make me stay in the game that i have zero chance to win. Even so, They told me i wasn’t being dumped just because he never verbally asked me out? and I have no right to feel upset because technically he did nothing wrong? Okay, he’s not a big O jerk (let’s not go to the detail here). But,you got my point, right? It’s not about the matter of the status of your relationship, or the duration you’re being with someone. Those thingscannot determined how deep your feeling toward someone or how much will it hurts when that particular someone leaves you.
Then the relationship status doesn’t really matter, right?
I was asked that exact question a several times too. And Yes, it maybe cannot determined a lot of things. But for me, it’s still matter alot. It give you a privilege to enter his life or invite him to your life. Give you privilege to randomly let him know what happen to your life by a non-sense text that you randomly sent just because you’re bored. a privilage to be a bit needy or even spoiled once in a while. a sense of belonging that let you know that you’re belong to someone. Small thing that will help you threw away those pride you usually have so that you’ll be able to show a bit of affection? Isn’t it things that probably you won’t do to just a regular friend ?
But again human’s relationship is indeed never been simple, whether it’s something that was called a ‘relationship’ or ‘friendship’, the one who has deeper feeling most likely will get hurt. Therefor, it has to be equal to make it work.
equal love. equal feeling. equal expectation.
Isn’t relationship is all about comprimising each other flaws and need?
Previously, I always think that the opossite of ‘i like you’ is ‘i don’t like you’. But i forgot that there is also a things like :
‘I like you but just not enough’
‘I like you but not as much as you did’
‘Maybe i just like you too much’
It is indeed crazy world out there with gazillion people in this planet. We coincidentaly accross each other path. We connected to each other with or without intention. so until you found the person that equally love you just like you did.
Why don’t we try our best not hurt or getting hurt to each other?